Tuesday, January 15, 2008

The Five מ's...

...this is something that I was reminded about recently, it came up in relation to a post elsewhere. The idea is to get a quick self assessment of the things that one finds most important when thinking about a possible future spouse. It works as follows: you rank five general issues in order of most important to least important. Meaning like this, think of each one as having its own sliding 1-5 with 1=best you can imagine and 5=worst you can imagine. Then rank 'em based on what your "best case scenario" would look like given the knowledge that some things by default will HAVE to be 1, 2 etc.

That's it, real simple right? (what, you were expecting something useful?? Just kidding, you'll be surprised how much this messes w/ your head) The key is to not over think before choosing otherwise you will not get a true "reading". That's right, self honesty is key here. So, while you may want to "lie" in the comments in order to make yourself look good please, I beg of you, don't do so in real life...everybody loses. On a lighter note, just have fun with it and see what falls out.

Without further ado (Y'know, I'm not sure the last time I was involved in an "ado"...and here it is only January), listed in alpha order so don't read into it:

Mamon = Money
Mar'eh = Looks
Middos = Character
Mishpacha = Family
Moach = Brains

So for example the above individual would have more money than God, be of above average looks, have avg. character traits, come from a not so great family (please, don't start about what makes up a "good family" okay, to each their own) and have the IQ of mayonnaise. Got it? OK!! Ready...set...::reader clicks out of post::

--If you're looking for an interpretive opinion based on different've come to the wrong place.


  1. I would like 5 #1 spots please. Thank you.

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  3. As a former teacher of mine used to say, Please don't take this personally but I'm gonna pick on you for a second to make a general comment:'s dating crisis.

  4. G, let me explain.
    It's not that I want all five and therefore think I can get them all. It's that -
    a) I am indecisive by nature and therefore can't make up my mind.
    b) while being indecisive I have my usual yezter hara/yetzer tov battle and go back and forth about what I think it truly important for my life.

    Am I still a prime example for the problems of today's "dating crisis"???

  5. Looking back, my five were:

    1: Character
    2: Brains
    3-4: Can't tell if Looks or Family; I think Family, based on other people I dated/thought about dating.
    5: Money [**** it! :P ]

    Interesting exercise.

  6. iPay - a) No! Really?!?!
    b) Ditto to (a). :D

  7. Being really honest, I think mine would be -
    1. brains
    2. character
    3. looks
    4. money
    5. family

  8. "G - What are yours?"

    **Danger! Joke Ahead**
    I repeat...
    **Danger! Joke Ahead, do not take seriously**

    Well, I kind of ascribe to the school of thought famously put forth by the O'Jays.(look 'em up)

  9. What, you're getting on the Love Train?

    Come on, what's the real answer?

  10. For the love of money... what's your answer? (better? :) )