Aidel Maidel has been back for a couple of weeks now, and she wrote a wonderful post tonight on dating and marriage.
It has taken me years to learn something very, very valuable. ...She has asked for people's opinions on the subject, so read her post and comment over there.
The man you marry is the man you have to expect he will be for the rest of his life.
What do I mean by this? If you think that he is going to change or move up in his level of Yiddishkeit and observance (or anything for that matter), you can forget it. You have to be prepared to live the rest of your life with the man as he is now.
Also, read this post of hers from a couple of weeks ago. It is one of the most honest and gut-wrenching posts you'll ever read.