Ezzie has come up with an ingenious idea. (Don't let the go to your head, Ez).
There should be people that act as professional "chaperons" for dates. These are people who would break the ice when the ice needs to be broken. Perhaps they bring along a fun game for the couple to play that would open up the floor for things to discuss. I hear people say all the time that they have nothing to talk about and there were SO many awkward silences throughout the date. I know for a fact that it is literally impossible to run out of things to talk about. Especially with someone that you have known for under two hours.
This chaperon could also be an easy target for the couple. They could easily make fun of the situation together! I know I would have a blast!
Just throwing the idea out there. Maybe it's my new profession I should pursue cuz Lord knows accounting isn't gonna last for too long.
**coughcoughcough**
ReplyDeleteHow ORIGINAL of you, Ezzie.
This chaperon could also be an easy target for the couple. They could easily make fun of the situation together! I know I would have a blast!
ReplyDeleteOh maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan.
Ezzie as a chaperone would be a Chavayah.
ReplyDeleteisn't that called being chasidish??
ReplyDeleteisn't that called being chasidish??
ReplyDeleteNo, the parents are in the OTHER room.
nahhhh i'd be too embarrassed to talk in front of someone that's not my actual date. weird sitch.
ReplyDeleteOh come on, it'd be hilarious! Think about the possibilities - the chaperon[e] could interject at all the wrong moments, could have fun cynically mocking all the things the guy and girl say... it'd be amazing!
ReplyDeleteImagine a dinner date with this person sitting 2 feet away while the dates talk.
More like they would hit the chaperone over the head at some point.
ReplyDeleteWith a piano, or something.
This sounds more like a bodyguard.
ReplyDeleteOK, ipay, you want me to be a chaperon on your next date? ;)
ReplyDeletesarak - like i said to ezzie - you get me dates and you can be my chaperon!
ReplyDeleteI hear people say all the time that they have nothing to talk about and there were SO many awkward silences throughout the date.
ReplyDeleteYea, so having a chaperone next to you listeing in on everything will surely rectify the awkwardness!
If I might interject a serious note into this din of absurdity.
ReplyDelete(honestly, you people take nothing seriously)
What you are advocating for use in real life is something that is becoming more common amongst forward thinking people. That is, to invite small groups of prospective young men and young ladies to one's home for a shabbos meal, weekend BBQ or simply to watch a movie. Even better are those homes which become "open door" and people can come and go as they please.
i will chaperone the chaperone in case the chaperone cant think of anything to sday
ReplyDeleteMore like they would hit the chaperone over the head at some point.
ReplyDeleteWith a piano, or something.
:P
G - That's what we're aiming for, if we're talking seriously. Though as a note, when people *say* that's what they're doing, it starts getting awkward again, from what I hear. (Though still less awkward.)
Anyway, agreed.
Hellman - ;) thanks, man, I can always count on you.
G - still looking for a pen and paper?
ReplyDeleteisn't that called being chasidish??
ReplyDeleteOr Modern-Orthodox American Muslim.
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/07/nyregion/07imam.html
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/09/19/us/19dating.html
BUT what if one of the couple starts flirting with the chaperone instead???
ReplyDeleteWhat G said.
ReplyDelete"Though as a note, when people *say* that's what they're doing, it starts getting awkward again, from what I hear. (Though still less awkward.)"
OMG, Is that a result of my Motzei Shabbos comment? It would be really cool to think people actually bothered to remember anything I say. (I do realize I'm completely setting myself up here:P)
Apple- You've got to stop inviting boys. You never know when they'll decide to actually take you up on it, and they'll just ruin everything;)
This is a joke...right?
ReplyDelete(please........)
MO muslims [hahahaha] - if only we were so frum (lehavdil)
ReplyDeleteand hey IT, that's why I'm not one of those chaperones... hehe...
my dad actually chaperoned my mom on their first date.
ReplyDelete"Imagine a dinner date with this person sitting 2 feet away while the dates talk."
ReplyDeleteAre you trying to score free restaurant food, Ezzie?
You think the Muslim thing was funny. It's really shockingly similar--at least in the article, they do exactly what ipaytoomuch proposes...no more frum than us!
ReplyDeleteThe first link about the Muslims shows that they have about the same spectrum as we do. Traditionally, there are arranged marriages. In America, many date freely. But in the Modern Orthodox community, they need to strike a balance. See, they have the same issur yichud as we do. So, the community in Brooklyn has a shadchan, named Mr. Shata.
He makes the shidduchim, and then he attends the dates to make sure that they run smoothly.
Check out the article. It's hysterical, but eerily familiar.
Call it something official in Hebrew, get a "Haskama" from a Rav and you're in business...literally.
ReplyDeleteRav only gets a small cut and you're good to go. Maybe some parents will pay you extra under the table to be an "undercover chaperone" who acts like he accidentally wound up on the date and knows one of the two daters. Now, that might be lucrative. It will take more effort, but you seem like a capable guy.
Okay, I need to chime in now, I'm laughing too hard!
ReplyDeleteApple, MH - LOLOL
OMG, Is that a result of my Motzei Shabbos comment? It would be really cool to think people actually bothered to remember anything I say. (I do realize I'm completely setting myself up here:P)
:P That actually wasn't based on what you said, but I've been quoting you plenty lately. :)
Jackie - Without looking I think I know which articles those are. :) Both really, really interesting... I think especially interesting is when the girl in one of them feels really guilty about not being 'shomer'.
Irina, MordyS - Ha! Oy...
Moshe - Ya know, I'm starting to think maybe it's not such a bad idea...
Erachet - Say wha?!
RM - SHHH!!! :D :D :D
Anon Mom - Hmmm...!!
Erachet - Say wha?! Oh, botheration! I was attempting to be funny! By chaperon, I mean my dad took her out! Aaaanway, what I had wanted to say was that by dad's best friend actually took out a a girl just so he could spy on my dad and my mom on their first date, but when I thought about it in my head, I thought, "my dad actually chaperoned my mom on their first date" and thought that sounded really amusing and random and wrote that instead. :D
ReplyDeleteyeah, i actually did read it, and after i posted my comment i was like, awwww, i didn't even make any references to the article to make it obvious i read it - [count that as a wierd thing to put on my meme]
ReplyDeletebut yeah, i don't know any "frum" muslims (or any muslims at all for that matter) but i totally believe that in dealing with "frumkeit" they probably go through many of the same issues we experience. however, one major thing the nyt so wonderfully pointed out, something they're very good at i guess in their quest to report both sides of every issue, are obvious major paradoxes in the muslim religion. i mean, come on, they're blasting MORTGAGES?! for being too materialistic, however every complaint from every guy they talk about and just about every request of what the guys are looking for was something physical, and Mohamed wore cologne?! i mean, jeeeez.
chaperone?
ReplyDeleteum, awkward much?
hello here is everyones head today- the only reason ez suggested this idea is because he is noisy and would want to know everything about everyones dates. However, he doesn't want to come off as a true NYer so he very inconspicously comes up with this idea so no one would know the real truth! I would so not take you on my date, you would start to like the girl/guy better and gang up on me. If you wanna know everything about anyones personal life there is no need to chaperon them on a date, instead just keep blogging- apparently this blog is like a soap opera that reveals and exposes everyones lives!
ReplyDeleteso the hell with chaperoning dates and kudos to blogging!
interesting
ReplyDeleteI have certainly been entertained by all these comments.
ReplyDeleteBottom line - I would NEVER want a chaperone on one of my dates.
Why would I want to embarrass myself in front of two people? One is certainly enough!
Marketing, people. Nobody's going to want a "chaperone." At least call it a "facilitator."
ReplyDeleteErachet- I got it. and i thought it was funny:)
ReplyDeleteErachet - LOL, okay, nice :)
ReplyDeleteSarah - Nah, it'd be fun!
Anon - Um, yeah, I guess I am noisy.
Lvnsm - Yup
iPay - You just wouldn't want ME. :P
JA - AWESOME! I love it. That's the best comment yet. "Facilitator" - Nawyce. :D