tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post3744564154639425484..comments2024-03-02T03:29:09.759-05:00Comments on SerandEz and Friends: The Shidduch Non-CrisisEzziehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494592434522239195noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-70368677716798689982007-08-21T18:59:00.000-04:002007-08-21T18:59:00.000-04:00No Crisis?<A HREF="http://www.aish.com/dating/wisdom/Season_of_Isolation.asp" REL="nofollow">No Crisis?</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-36990076964046447972007-08-20T14:51:00.000-04:002007-08-20T14:51:00.000-04:00I agree with batya and certainly there are mo's wh...I agree with batya and certainly there are mo's who go on shidduch dates to think otherwise is absurd. If you don't think there is a shidduch crisis go no further than a <BR/>shidduch function such as "sawyouatsiani". I have a friend who is heavly involved in it and he has told me that there is certainly a crisis.AShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05802355878284709939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-41419694542677711572007-08-19T02:39:00.000-04:002007-08-19T02:39:00.000-04:00There are differences and similarities here and th...There are differences and similarities here and there from chariedi to MO etc. <BR/>Sometimes I insist that "nothing will surprise me," but then I'm shocked anew.<BR/>Recently I heard of a couple, <I>not the first time</I> getting engaged on the second date, OK, I thought to myself. They'll get to know each other when planning the wedding.<BR/>But... within weeks, he was off to 770, until a couple of days before the chupah, and the girl and parents have to hash it out alone.Batyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11246929075812590204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-48570187130117076272007-08-18T21:22:00.000-04:002007-08-18T21:22:00.000-04:00Much less "checking out" and waaay less discussion...Much less "checking out" and waaay less discussion through other people - much more direct.Ezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12494592434522239195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-63917013082436217842007-08-18T13:36:00.000-04:002007-08-18T13:36:00.000-04:00why is that different from how things are done by ...why is that different from how things are done by the charedim?eemhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02122062556637908608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-21182089693281137222007-08-18T05:02:00.000-04:002007-08-18T05:02:00.000-04:00hh: what system is right. i consider myself modern...hh: what system is right. i consider myself modern Orthodox (although i don't like labels) and i have no idea what the 'system' is or is supposed to be or not be.<BR/><BR/>how i see it as that any date set up by anyone (friend, relative, acquantance, shadchan) can be classified as a 'shidduch' date even though it's quite obviously a diff way of doing things than the charedim.Sarah Likes Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15055831838215589183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-19903021640266242152007-08-17T16:01:00.000-04:002007-08-17T16:01:00.000-04:00This might be a stupid question coming ignorance, ...This might be a stupid question coming ignorance, but do MO's go on shidduchim? I mean, many that I hear about just date the way I did and get married whenever. So what shidduch system are we talking about? Clearly not the charedi one wheer you go to a shadchan thatsets you up and you marry after the 2nd date.Holy Hyraxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17704030181702087485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13326001.post-26545613339116971182007-08-17T15:40:00.000-04:002007-08-17T15:40:00.000-04:00I'll go read the whole thing, but I don't agree. ...I'll go read the whole thing, but I don't agree. I think there should be less pressure and I think EVERYONE including singles should travel and study and pursue hobbies, but--gee--it is easier to have children when you are in your '20's and run after them, trust me--I'm greeting 40 and I'm tired. It's also easier to be celibate if you get married in your early to mid 20's and I think celibacy is a good idea before marriage so... that said, the Shidduch system stinks, 18 is usually too young for the average girl, and the Shidduch system stinks (oh, did I say that already?) I always say that if we loaded all the wonderful, frum, single women out there in their 30's into one ballroom, it would shock the pants off everyone. In my dream, all the Rashei Yeshiva and Rabanim would be there to see it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com